Ritwiks, a Bookshop Bar by the Sea

During the first years of their marriage, my parents lived in the picturesque Nancouri island, part of the Andaman and Nicobar chain of islands off the eastern coast of India. Nancouri has a natural horse-shoe shaped harbour and is located in the more secluded Nicobar part of the island chain, which is why the Indian government did, at some point of time, toy with the idea of turning it into an international free port.

Thankfully, the Indian navy shot down the idea, and another island paradise, and the local population, was saved -- at least temporarily -- from commercial sodomy, oops, exploitation (this is a family blog, Rajan, he chided himself).

Coming back to the days my parents spent in Nancouri, my mother tells me a story which, among the many from that part of the world, is one of my favourites.

The Nicobaris are a very friendly lot. Everytime you make eye contact with one, he is most likely going to smile back at you. My father, who spent a few years in Nicobar, says the Nicobaris would always be laughing, as if there was a private joke that was going on between them.

In Nancouri a few of the Nicobaris worked as domestic helps at the homes of government officials like my father. As domestic helps, they were very clean hygienically and very honest, recalls my mother. They would rarely quibble about the amount they would charge as salary or complain about the amount of work they had to do.

The young man who used to be in the employ of my parents was very friendly and very hardworking, says Ma. Often his friends would come and visit him and it is the custom among Nicobaris to always see off your visitor to the door. So, my mother says, it wasn't unusual for him to disappear for a few minutes as he would bid goodbye to his friends.

However, one morning when he had gone to leave another of his friends, he didn't come back. My mother grew increasingly worried, wondering both about his well being as well as the household chores that needed to be done. Later in the day she informed my Dad, that the young Nicobari help had been gone almost the whole day. My Dad made a few enquiries about his whereabouts, but couldn't find him.

Over the next few days, there was no news of him. My parents were worried if he was alright. They were also contemplating whether they should hire a new help. Then, as suddenly as he had disappeared, he reappeared one fine morning. A familiar smiling face peeped in through the kitchen window and asked : "Naukri hai?"

My mother was initially anxious if he was ok, then her concern gave way to anger, when she realised he was fine and wasn't about to explain or apologize for his prolonged absence. All he said was he had gone fishing with his friends and was now back.

Usually slow to rouse to anger, my Ma was hopping mad that morning and she waded into him, all guns blazing. She told him, how worried they had been about his well being. She asked him why he hadn't informed her before leaving. She told him how unprofessional his conduct had been. It was a tongue lashing that would have left most ordinary mortals quaking in their boots. Not this man though.

He heard my mother through patiently, with a faintly amused expression on his face. Then, without a care or worry in the world, a huge smile on his face which suggested that my mother's plea in the name of professionalism had clearly missed its mark, he repeated the query he had made from the kitchen window -- "Naukri hai?"

It was a reaction that left my mother spluttering, the wind completely taken out of her sail, she was at a loss for words. As my mother stood there speechless, our man coolly walked into the kitchen and took his position.

I have a friend in Delhi who, after working for a year at a stretch, quits his job and goes on a (for the lack of a more apt word) "walkabout". I have seen him follow this almost-annual routine for the past fifteen odd years. For as long as the money that he has saved lasts, he does not come back. He holes up somewhere, or just travels to some new place (he is known to be partial to the hills). Then he comes back to Delhi, only when he absolutely has to, knocks on the doors of prospective employers with a "Naukri hai?" query.

Oh, I want to do that, too. But somehow never manage to. Never have the courage to. I am too attached to my worldly comforts, the sense of responsibility (in the broader, social sense that we know it) too deeply ingrained to take a step that would just make you happy. Such a silly thing that, anyway, chasing happiness. Not the most practical or worldly wise thing to do.

Fo those of us unable (perhaps even disabled) to go on these "walkabouts", because in my friend's words, "You people have raised the stakes yourselves", all I can say is it is up to us really to lower those stakes. I can't do it on an annual basis, but I will be damned if I don't have a long-term plan.

Many years ago, I was sure how I wanted to spend the later years of my life. I wanted a two-floor wooden building with glass windows at the edge of a beach , with a book shop on the ground floor and a small eatery on the floor above, selling seafood and wine. I saw myself as a serious consumer on both the floors. It was 1986, to be precise, when I had just completed my post-graduation and was travelling through Andamans. I was all by myself on a lovely lonely beach and I dreamed with my eyes wide open of this seaside bookshop and bar.

Twenty years on, as i am much closer to the aforementioned later years, the dream is still intact. As lot of things which were once important to me slip from my grip, I hold on to it, this dream, with a determination that is often uncharacteristically fierce. On good days, the dream makes me incredibly happy. On bad days, the dream just appears a lot more distant than what it should be.

The only thing that's perhaps changed in my mind over the years is the name of the bookshop-bar. Instead of Rajan's, I think i will settle for Ritwik's.

Writing as a therapy...

A few days ago, I had written to a friend who wasn't too well that writing can be, and often is, therapeutic. This is what he wrote back:

I wrote a few pages during the last week. Wasn't worth the paper it was written on. My ailment ain't worth of this therapy.

Ghalib said that a hundred years ago...

Dard minnat-kashe dava naa hua,
Main naa atchha hua, bura naa hua.

Just how good does this get?

My blog turns one month old today. I had originally thought I would observe the completion of the first month with something interesting posting here.

No such luck though. After a long day, tired and immodest, all I can think of is a little pat on my back for finally starting to write, after several false starts. While I have always had a lot of things in my mind that I wanted to put down in words, whenever I tried to pen the same words I didn't find the task very easy. So it has taken a certain amount of effort and a lot of good, old-fashioned prodding by several good friends to get me going.

Happily for me, there have been days in the past month when I have woken up energised and rather excited about the writing that awaited me. Whether the words that followed should have been inflicted upon unsuspecting blog readers is another matter altogether.

What should be of more concern to the same unsuspecting readers is that something tells me that I am going to be blogging for sometime to come now.

Don't tell me now, you haven't been warned!

On that alarming note, I retire tonight, with a MacAruthur like "I shall return" promise.

Did Ye Know...

... In the year of 1977, when the Janata Party came to power unseating Congress for the first time since Independence, and Morarji Desai became the Prime Minister, Prohibition was clamped in Delhi.

Overnight, the Delhi Administration's department of Excise, entrusted with the task of organising and monitoring the sale of liquor in Delhi, was disbanded. Instead, a new department, the deprtment of Prohibition, was created.

Prohibition was a subject close to Morarji Bhai's heart and the department of prohibition went about its business of discouraging the sale and consumption of liquor in Delhi with a great degree of seriousness. In 1980, when Mrs. G won the elections and came back to power again, things changed once again.

Prohibition was lifted, and the department of Excise was resurrected to carry on with its old business. Mrs. G' s advisors told her it would be politically incorrect to be seen as a government that was completely against Prohibition. So, it was decided that the department of Prohibition, downsized considerably, would however still carry out the occasional anti-alcohol campaign.

Now THIS is the really interesting part of the story...

For reasons best known to themselves, and reasons that have never been quite explained since, the Delhi government, in its infinite wisdom, created the joint post of Commissioner of Excise and Director of Prohibition. Thus, in effect, the same man who was entrusted with the task of encouraging and promoting the sale of liquor in Delhi was also given the job of discouraging the sale and consumption of alcohol in the Indian capital.

For thirteen long years, this administrative anomaly continued and Delhi's Excise Commissioner was also the director of Prohibition. A succession of brave officials, to their credit, held the dual post, without ever officially communicating they had any difficulty in managing such contradictory chores.

I had the pleasure of meeting one of the last incumbents of this unique office. On record he refused to comment on the rather interesting nature of his job, except for once mumbling under his breath that officials much senior than him had created the dual post and it wasn't the job of lesser mortals like him to question the wisdom behind such a major administrative initiative.

Off the record, the man did admit that someone with a multiple personality disorder would have been ideal to do justice to the dual posting.

When Calvin Klein meets Stone Age

Exactly five years after the Supreme Court of India ordered its closure, the government of Andaman and Nicobar islands, in direct defiance of the order of the highest court of the land, continues to keep the Andaman Trunk Road (ATR) open.

The controversial 340-km-long road goes right through the habitat of the Jarawas, one of the oldest hunter-gatherer communities in the world. Only two hundred and fifty odd Jarawas survive today. And the closure of the road is considered to be critical to the survival of the Jarawas.

London-based Survival International, an international organisation which fights for tribal rights, has declared the Jarawas among the “three most endangered tribes” in the world.

On Tuesday, May 8, Survival International again called upon the authorities in Andaman and Nicobar islands to close the ATR, as per the Supreme Court orders of five years ago.

The Jarawas live on Middle Andaman Island, in territory they have inhabited for thousands of years. In 1957, the government of India created a reserve of 700 square kilometres, surrounded by police posts and manned by a 400-strong force.

Ostensibly the idea was to protect the Jarawas from outside incursions, but in reality the reserve was built to contain the Jarawas within that area.

And, almost overnight, the erstwhile lord and masters of the Andaman Sea found themselves confined to a limited piece of real estate. A piece of real estate, through which in 1969, the government of Andaman and Nicobar islands, in its infinite wisdom, decided to construct a major inter-island road.

From 1970 to 1989, when the Andaman Trunk Road was being constructed, the Jarawas on several occasions attacked the construction workers, thereby expressing their objection to the construction of the road in no uncertain manner. Anthropologists and environmental groups working in the Andaman islands had for long warned against the wisdom of constructing a road that goes right through the middle of the Jarawa reserve.

The authorities persisted with the construction of the road that links Port Blair, the capital of Andaman and Nicobar islands, in south Andamans, with Diglipur in north Andamans. In the 1970s, when I was a schoolboy, it used to take more than a day and a half on a steam ship to travel from Port Blair to Diglipur. Now the same journey can be made by road in less than twelve hours, thanks to the ATR..

But the construction of the ATR brought in its wake not just settlers, but poachers who eyed the rich tree cover of the Jarawa reserve. As incidents of poaching increased, and tension among the Jarawas and the settlers who lived around the ATR mounted, environmentalists and anthropologists were convinced that Jarawas would in the not-so-distant future become extinct if the ATR was not closed down.

Acting on a petition filed by local environmental groups, prominently among them SANE (Save Andaman and Nicobar Ecology) and backed by Survival International, the Supreme Court in May 2002 had ordered the closure of the Andaman Trunk Road. An order that lies unimplemented even after five years of its passing.

As we drive down the gleaming tarmaced road starting from Port Blair, a top environmentalist who has battled the Andaman administration for several years, tells me : “Each day this road remains open, it brings the Jarawas closer to extinction.” About 15 kilometres down the road, bang on the middle, sits a huge, abandoned road roller – perhaps the most poignant symbol of the insensitivity with which the authorities in Andamans have tried to steamroll the opposition to the construction of this road.

As we move into Baratng in Middle Andamans, the heart of the Jarawa reserve, one can see makeshift straw shelters on roadsides which act as police pickets. Policemen can be seen lounging idly, their backs against the straw shelters, puffing away at cigarettes. Cigarettes that, my environmentalist friend tells me, find their way to the Jarawas.

In order to ensure the road remains closed, the Andaman government had set up police pickets at different intervals along the Andaman Trunk Road. Apart from the human and vehicular traffic on the road, today the single biggest threat to the survival of the Jarawas is posed by the policemen manning these pickets.

Though authorities in Port Blair claim otherwise, the policemen appear hardly sensitized to handle the delicate issue that they have been asked to oversee. Not only there have been reports of growing addiction to tobacco among the Jarawas, as a direct result of easy access to cigarettes through the police personnel on duty, there has been the odd case of policemen trying to sexually exploit the Jarawa women.

The contact of outsiders travelling on this road exposes the Jarawas to all kind of medical diseases that these people may be carrying with them. There have been several earlier instances of large numbers of tribals dying following contact with members of the outside world.

Worse, outside contact is exposing the Jarawas to a lifestyle that they can ill afford to adopt. There is a picture of a Jarawa woman being given a packet of biscuits by a passenger in a bus. As a bus carrying settlers enters Baratang, you can see on the roof of the bus, a group of Jarawas who have decided to hitch a ride into town. They purposefully make their way into shops, often buying stuff in exchange of honey they have collected from the forest.

Among them is a boy no more than 15 or 16, wearing a worn out Calvin Kline tee shirt. My environmentalist friend points out to the sight and comments ruefully : “Calvin Kline meets Stone Age, huh?”

I speak to some of the shopkeepers who deal with Jarawas on a daily basis. They are the settlers who have built houses along the ATR, set up shops there. They are unanimous in their contempt for the Jarawas. "These people are uncivilized. For them this road is not important. For us it is a lifeline," says one.

A number of them have been settled there by the Andaman administration, others have moved on their own. Now they add up to a sizeable vote bank that no political party in Andamans is willing to antagonize.

Manoranjan Bhakta, solitary representative of the Andaman islands in the Indian Parliament, calls for a holistic approach to the whole issue. He says the Andaman government remains committed to protect the interests of the Jarawas. But Bhakta says the Andaman administration cannot overlook the interests of people it has brought from different parts of mainland India and settled them around Andaman Trunk Road.

Politicians have their own compulsions. They need votes. And in electoral terms, the two hundred and fifty odd Jarawas don’t matter at all, in comparison to the 12,000-strong settler votes. Any politician worth his salt would tell you, that is a bit of a no-contest.

Problem is, if only the Jarawa knew his anthropological arithmetic, he would tell you that three decades of settlers’ existence in Andamans weighed against a civilization as old as perhaps mankind itself, is also a bit of a no-contest.

Cinema Paradiso

Why do you go to the movies? I do, because I have been in love with them, this whole movie-viewing, movie-anticipating (oh, the thrill of the Friday, first show!), movie-dissecting (imagine, Ramesh Sippy, the guy who made Sholaay also made Bhrashtachaar?) experience for as long as I can remember.

I have loved going to the movies since I first watched Manoj Kumar’s Shaheed on a crowded ground in Diglipur. For a few years after that, I thought Manoj Kumar was Bhagat Singh. Later, I skipped school with friends to watch the oh-so-adult Lacemaker and Gypsy Camp Vanishes Into the Blue, dubbed famously – and screened in Delhi’s Regal theatre on morning shows– as Banjaron Ki Basti Neel Mein Kho Gayi. First Anand and then Mili convinced me cancer was serious business. I seriously fell in love with Jessica Lange after watching Tootsie. Movies had seamlessly become part of one’s life.

Some scenes are etched in your memory for ever. I have a feeling if I ever suffer from memory loss, I will wake up the next morning and still remember the train fight sequence in Sholaay. Or that Amitabh one-liner in Gabbar’s lair : “Kisine hilne ki koshish ki to bhun ke rakh doonga.” All through adolescence and even college days, every time I mouthed that dialogue, it would seem to usher in bodily changes – I felt I had grown taller, adding several inches to my five-foot, three-inch frame.

If school years were all about Amitabh Bachchan and RD Burman and Kishore Kumar, then college was all about Woody Allen. In my second year in college, I was persuaded by my friends to go and watch a movie called Manhattan. When I walked inside the hall, I didn’t even know who Woody Allen was. I came out two hours later, a fan of his for life. Twenty years on I am still mesmerized by the man’s writing and film making skills.

Over the years, there have been many many great (and I dare say, several terrible, crappy ones!) films that one has seen. Too many to list here. Too many different reasons too why I liked the movies that I have. Some for their music (Teri Kasam), some for the action (remember James Coburn in that knife throwing shot in The Magnificent Seven?), some for the photography (A Walk in the Clouds) and others simply because they were such great movies.

But I guess if I had to choose one reason, one solitary reason, why I like the movies so much, then it has to be the dialogue. Those lovely, lovely lines that my favourite screen personalities mouth, the one liners that “make your day.” My sentimental favourite are the opening and closing lines of Annie Hall, regarded by many as Woody Allen's finest movie .

Opening lines of ANNIE HALL :

Alvy Singer : [addressing the camera] There's an old joke - um... two elderly women are at a Catskill mountain resort, and one of 'em says, "Boy, the food at this place is really terrible." The other one says, "Yeah, I know; and such small portions." Well, that's essentially how I feel about life - full of loneliness, and misery, and suffering, and unhappiness, and it's all over much too quickly. The... the other important joke, for me, is one that's usually attributed to Groucho Marx; but, I think it appears originally in Freud's "Wit and Its Relation to the Unconscious," and it goes like this - I'm paraphrasing - um, "I would never want to belong to any club that would have someone like me for a member." That's the key joke of my adult life, in terms of my relationships with women.

Closing lines of ANNIE HALL :

Alvy Singer : [narrating] After that it got pretty late, and we both had to go, but it was great seeing Annie again. I... I realized what a terrific person she was, and... and how much fun it was just knowing her; and I... I, I thought of that old joke, y'know, the, this... this guy goes to a psychiatrist and says, "Doc, uh, my brother's crazy; he thinks he's a chicken." And, uh, the doctor says, "Well, why don't you turn him in?" The guy says, "I would, but I need the eggs." Well, I guess that's pretty much now how I feel about relationships; y'know, they're totally irrational, and crazy, and absurd, and... but, uh, I guess we keep goin' through it because, uh, most of us... need the eggs.

The following is a collection of some of my favourites, and I bet yours too. Have fun…

Receptionist : How do you write women so well?
Melvin Udall : I think of a man, and I take away reason and accountability.

- AS GOOD AS IT GETS

Isaac Davis : I had a mad impulse to throw you down on the lunar surface and commit interstellar perversion.

- MANHATTAN

Hawkeye : No wonder they execute people at dawn. Who wants to live at six A.M.?

- M*A*S*H

John McClane : Hey, Carmine, let me ask you something. What sets off the metal detectors first? The lead in your ass or the shit in your brains?
[under his breath]

- DIE HARD 2

Harry : Had my dream again where I'm making love, and the Olympic judges are watching. I'd nailed the compulsories, so this is it, the finals. I got a 9.8 from the Canadians, a perfect 10 from the Americans, and my mother, disguised as an East German judge, gave me a 5.6. Must have been the dismount.

- WHEN HARRY MET SALLY

Gareth : I've got a new theory about marriage. Two people are in love, they live together, and then suddenly one day, they run out of conversation.
Charles : Uh-huh.
Gareth : Totally. I mean they can't think of a single thing to say to each other. That's it: panic! Then suddenly it-it occurs to the chap that there is a way out of the deadlock.
Charles : Which is?
Gareth : He'll ask her to marry him.
Charles : Brilliant! Brilliant!
Gareth : Suddenly they've got something to talk about for the rest of their lives.
Charles : Basically you're saying marriage is just a way of getting out of an embarrassing pause in conversation.
Gareth : The definitive icebreaker.

- FOUR WEDDINGS AND A FUNERAL

[after learning Mickey is infertile]
Hannah : Could you have ruined yourself somehow?
Mickey : How could I ruin myself?
Hannah : I don't know. Excessive masturbation?
Mickey : You gonna start knockin' my hobbies?

- HANNAH AND HER SISTERS

Alvy Singer : Hey, Harvard makes mistakes too! Kissinger taught there!

- ANNIE HALL

Melvin Udall : People who talk in metaphors oughta shampoo my crotch.

- AS GOOD AS IT GETS

Mary Wilke : Don't psychoanalyze me. I pay a doctor for that.
Isaac Davis : Hey, you call that guy that you talk to a doctor? I mean, you don't get suspicious when your analyst calls you at home at three in the morning and weeps into the telephone?
Mary Wilke : All right, so he's unorthodox. He's a highly qualified doctor.
Isac Davis : He's done a great job on you, y'know. Your self esteem is like a notch below Kafka's.

- MANHATTAN

[Sgt. Zale, drunk, has broken his hand]
B.J. : Congratulations, Sergeant. You've just turned your right hand into a maraca. Once I set it, you can sit in with the relief band.
Zale : How come I don't feel no pain?
B.J. : It's swimming upstream against the bourbon.

- M*A*S*H

Melvin Udall : Never, never, interrupt me, okay? Not if there's a fire, not even if you hear the sound of a thud from my home and one week later there's a smell coming from there that can only be a decaying human body and you have to hold a hanky to your face because the stench is so thick that you think you're going to faint. Even then, don't come knocking. Or, if it's election night, and you're excited and you wanna celebrate because some fudgepacker that you date has been elected the first queer president of the United States and he's going to have you down to Camp David, and you want someone to share the moment with. Even then, don't knock. Not on this door. Not for ANY reason. Do you get me, sweetheart?
Simon Bishop: [clears his throat] Uhm, yes. It's not a... subtle point that you're making.
Melvin Udall : Okay then.
Shuts door in Simon's face

- AS GOOD AS IT GETS

Jess : Marriages don't break up on account of infidelity. It's just a symptom that something else is wrong.
Harry Burns : Oh really? Well, that "symptom" is fucking my wife.

- WHEN HARRY MET SALLY

Hawkeye : Frank, you are 10 of the most boring people I know.

- M*A*S*H

Melvin Udall : Where do they teach you to talk like this? In some Panama City "Sailor wanna hump-hump" bar, or is it getaway day and your last shot at his whiskey? Sell crazy someplace else, we're all stocked up here.

- AS GOOD AS IT GETS

[Harry and Sally discussing orgasms]
Sally : Most women at one time or another have faked it.
Harry : Well, they haven't faked it with me.
Sally : How do you know?
Harry : Because I know.
Sally : Oh. Right. Thats right. I forgot. Youre a man.
Harry : What was that supposed to mean?
Sally : Nothing. Its just that all men are sure it never happened to them and all women at one time or other have done it so you do the math.

- WHEN HARRY MET SALLY

Melvin Udall : What makes it so hard is not that you had it bad, but that you're that pissed that so many others had it good.

- AS GOOD AS IT GETS

Mama, where is my Chhatrella?

The moment of truth, the hour of reckoning, is here.

Ever since his birth, from the time he fixed us with a toothless grin, a grin that transcended with effortless ease every other joy that we had ever singly or collectively experienced, to the first tentative steps he took after several tumbles on the carpeted floor, to the first garbled word that he uttered -- everything that had happened in his three and a half year old existence was leading up to this big moment.

You see, folks, my son, Ritwik, is all set to go to school.

I am told by my parents that the first language I picked up as a child was Hindi. Growing up in the very cosmopolitan Port Blair in the Andaman and Nicobar islands, we lived in a neighbourhood which was populated almost in equal numbers by Bengalis, Tamils, and Keralites. The prevailing lingua franca was a gender-bending Hindi that I have never heard spoken anywhere else.

My parents never fussed very much about the first school I went to because in Diglipur (North Andamans), my father’s next posting after Port Blair, one wasn’t exactly spoilt for choices. One day a man had walked up to my father, seeking permission to start a primary school in the island. My father wasn’t very impressed by the academic credentials of the man who had come up with the idea, for he carried with him documents which to my father’s untrained eye looked forged. But he relented, because at that time the island didn’t have any primary school.

Dad was no crystal ball gazer. So, he had no clue that one day his own son would be a student of that hallowed institution he had helped start under somewhat dubious circumstances. Among my few memories of that school is the headmaster walking with a bamboo stalk as tall as me, which he used with fair degree of regularity on the backs of several of my classmates but never once on the son of his benefactor.

I have no complaints about my first school. The medium of instruction was Bengali. Thank God for that! I can read and write in Bangla, my mother tongue. Though English was taught only from the fourth grade, my mother taught me at home, which kept me in good stead in later years.

I have often asked my parents why they ever left the beautiful Andamans and moved to this godforsaken city of nine months of summer. Their answer? Better schooling for me.

So, you see, it is in my genes -- this quest for better schooling. And now my parents and the other parent of my son have joined forces to ensure the best possible education is not denied to the youngest Chakravarty.

The Great Debate in the Chakravarty household for sometime now has raged around which school should Ritwik go to. The three major participants in this debate are clear that they want to have a significant say in Ritwik’s schooling and with good reason too. My father has always seen himself as the patriarch of the Charavartys and in most matters (including this one) he is quietly confident that he knows what is best. My mother was a school teacher for thirty years and is of the opinion that she has an inside track on how school admissions work. My wife... well, she’s the mother of Ritwik and who else can know what is best for the child?

As the relative merits of Springdales (“it is not too far from where we live”) are weighed against that of Delhi Public School ("oh it is a nice school, but do we really want our child to grow up and send dirty MMS of his classmates?”) in heated discussions on the dinner table, there is a general unanimity on two counts.

First, that the best school is easily St. Columbus. “Arun Jaitley is from there”, says my BJP-very friendly dad, and my wife adds happily: “Shah Rukh Khan is from Columbus too.” (Now, to me, they are two reasons as good as any why Ritwik should NOT go to Columbus.)

And, second, Ritwik needs to be proficent in English. Konwledge of the language is an absolute must, if one has to study in Columbus or any of the other sainted institutions.

I don’t remember a lot of my life in Diglipur. One of the few things I do remember, was a pleasant Sunday morning when my mother was busy packing our stuff. A month before that, my father had received transfer orders to Delhi. As soon as the orders arrived, my mother immediately started on my English lessons, worried that my lack of proficiency in the language could hold me back during admission. Since she left for work early in the morning, the task fell upon my Dad to give me a crash course in English.

On this morning , as my Ma guided the team of packers, she smiled at me and asked how were my English lessons with my father going. I said they were going just fine. She asked me what all I had picked up. I stood up, walked to the middle of the room, and beckoned my mother to join me. She was slightly surprised, then came and stood next to me. I smiled at her and said “I go.” And then moved to the door, where I told her, “You go.”

She clapped her hands and said “very good… now what else have you learnt?”. I looked a bit lost, and said “But this is all Dad has been teaching me over the past month.” She looked at me incredulously and said, “You expect me to believe that? That for one month your Dad has just done this.. this ‘I go, you go’ routine and nothing else?”

It became suddenly crystal clear to me that Dad’s teaching efforts had fallen way short of my mother’s expectations. I stood there and shrugged helplessly, feeling vaguely defensive about my Dad’s English teaching skills.

As I filled in my mother about my recently-acquired knowledge of English, my father quietly sat in the verandah and sipped another cup of tea, blissfully unaware of the woes that were about to visit him. I watched from the window, he took the tongue-lashing that followed rather manfully. He sipped the last of his tea, folded the newspaper neatly and kept it on the table before him, looked at my mother with a dead pan expression and said “I go”, as he walked out of the house.

A few hours later I could hear his jaunty footsteps return. I looked out of the window of my room. He stood there on the porch, looking at peace with himself, secure in the knowledge that the storm had blown over. At that moment, I felt immensely happy that this man was my father and I was his son.

Almost four decades later, history is about to be repeated in the Chakravarty household. Another mother is spending sleepless nights about her son’s proficiency in English and how that could be central to his admission in a school of our choice. I am Bengali, my wife is Sindhi. To Ritwik’s credit he has picked up a bit of both the languages. But he feels most comfortable in Hindi. He understands English, but other than occasional monosyllabic responses, prefers to speak only in Hindi – a situation that my family is desperately trying to remedy.

As he is bombarded with English words, poems, lyrics and songs, poor Ritwik is very confused. For, most words, immediately after they have been spoken, are almost immediately translated in triplicate, and often at a pace that is bewildering for a three year old mind. Thus, a chhaata (Bengali) becomes chhatri (Hindi) and then quickly is described as umbrella (English). The level of Ritwik’s confusion is evident in his response.

So, as it rained on Wednesday afternoon, bringing the mercury down, and my son wanted to go to the nearby park, he almost stepped out into the rain, then backed off and somewhat breathlessly asked his mother : “Mama, where is my Chhatrella?”

My parents looked devastated, my wife looked stricken, the dreams of a St. Columbus school admission melting away quickly.

As for me, I tried my best to imitate the calm look on my father’s face on that balmy Sunday Diglipur afternoon many many years ago.

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